A Million Americans Have Died From Covid. We Need to Mourn Together.

The magnitude of the loss is overwhelming. Every person who died represents a community, a family or a group of friends who will never be the same.

#coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #funerals-and-memorials, #grief-emotion, #internal-sub-only-nl

One Man’s Choice to Be Cremated Under the Open Sky

A small Colorado town maintains the country’s only public outdoor funeral pyre. Philip Incao saw it as his own perfect ending.

#colorado, #cremation, #death-and-dying, #funerals-and-memorials, #steiner-rudolf

One Million

The number of known deaths from Covid-19 in the United States will soon reach one million. Listeners reflect on the lives lost.

#audio-negative-tragedy, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #united-states, #vaccination-and-immunization

When Hope Hinges on an Unapproved Drug

The limits of expanded access to experimental drugs.

#clinical-trials, #death-and-dying, #drugs-pharmaceuticals

Books About Death and Grief Can Bring Hope

The saddest stories can show us how full of grace the fallen world can be.

#books-and-literature, #death-and-dying, #friendship, #grief-emotion, #love-emotion, #what-we-wish-were-true-book, #writing-and-writers

Oregon Ends Residency Requirement for Medically Assisted Deaths

In resolution of a federal lawsuit, state health authorities agreed on Monday to stop enforcing the residency requirement and to ask the Legislature to remove it from the law.

#columbia-river-pacific-northwest, #compassionchoices, #death-and-dying, #euthanasia-and-assisted-suicide, #national-suicide-prevention-lifeline, #oregon, #suits-and-litigation-civil

In Difficult Cases, ‘Families Cannot Manage Death at Home’

Health care researchers argue that hospice facilities could better serve some terminal patients, and ease the burden on exhausted loved ones.

#death-and-dying, #elderly, #hospice-care, #medicare, #united-states, #warraich-haider-j, #your-feed-health, #your-feed-science

Modern Love Podcast: A Mother’s Wild, Extravagant Love

She couldn’t be physically present for her daughter’s life. But she found a way to be there, still.

#dating-and-relationships, #death-and-dying, #gifts, #grief-emotion, #love-emotion

This Memoir About the Contradictions of Grief Plays by Its Own Rules

The novelist Kathryn Davis’s personal and time-shuffling new book, “Aurelia, Aurélia,” is about the death of her husband.

#aurelia-aurelia-book, #books-and-literature, #content-type-personal-profile, #davis-kathryn, #death-and-dying

Ash Wednesday and the Hope It Offers

The pandemic has challenged any expectation that we can control our lives and be rescued from loss.

#cemeteries, #christians-and-christianity, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #internal-sub-only-nl, #prayers-and-prayer-books

The I.C.U. Patient, and the Family

Exploring the dilemmas involving patients, their families and health care providers in end-of-life care. Also: Quotation marks; calling and driving.

#death-and-dying, #drunken-and-reckless-driving, #english-language, #hospitals, #medicine-and-health

Death Changed My Life

I see now that life is a series of peaks and valleys, and it is a fool’s errand to try to flatten them out.

#death-and-dying, #families-and-family-life, #medicine-and-health, #mental-health-and-disorders, #psychology-and-psychologists, #social-conditions-and-trends

Tough Decisions About End-of-Life Care

Readers offer personal stories in response to a doctor’s guest essay about advance directives.

#death-and-dying, #elderly, #health-insurance-and-managed-care, #hospice-care, #living-wills-and-health-care-proxies

How Families Can Navigate the I.C.U.

A new book offers guidance on how family members can support a critically ill loved one who ends up in the hospital’s intensive care unit.

#death-and-dying, #families-and-family-life, #hospitals, #living-wills-and-health-care-proxies, #post-traumatic-stress-disorder

Notes From the End of a Very Long Life by New York’s Oldest

With the death of Ruth Willig at 98, a Times series on a set of the oldest New Yorkers — chronicled over seven years in 21 articles — offers their lessons on living with loss.

#content-type-personal-profile, #death-and-dying, #elder-care, #elderly, #longevity, #mekas-jonas, #moses-helen-1924, #new-york-city, #willig-ruth-1923

When Faced With Death, People Often Change Their Minds

Do advance directives by healthy people actually deliver better care?

#death-and-dying, #hospitals, #living-wills-and-health-care-proxies

The Artists We Lost in 2021, in Their Words

Some artists held the spotlight for generations. Others left us lamenting careers cut short. Here is a tribute to those we lost this year.

#abloh-virgil, #actors-and-actresses, #adnan-etel, #allen-joseph-c-1933, #asner-ed, #avian-bob, #banes-lisa, #carle-eric, #cleary-beverly, #culture-arts, #death-and-dying, #dmx, #dodgion-dottie-1929-2021, #downey-robert-sr, #dukakis-olympia, #floyd-carlisle, #fracci-carla, #gensler-art-1935-2021, #grodin-charles, #hickey-dave, #hooks-bell, #leachman-cloris, #liu-hung, #lopez-yolanda-1942-2021, #macdonald-norm, #mccrory-helen, #mcmurtry-larry, #music, #plummer-christopher, #scarlett-liam, #sondheim-stephen, #two-thousand-twenty-one, #tyson-cicely, #upson-kaari-1972, #van-peebles-melvin, #walter-jessica, #williams-michael-kenneth, #writing-and-writers, #young-dolph-1985-2021

A 3-D Printed Pod Inflames the Assisted Suicide Debate

The pod, known as Sarco, was conceived as a way for people to end their lives without involving a doctor. A plan to introduce it in Switzerland has raised alarm even among right-to-die advocates.

#3-d-devices-and-effects, #death-and-dying, #ethics-and-official-misconduct, #euthanasia-and-assisted-suicide, #museums, #nitschke-philip, #switzerland

What if There’s No Such Thing as Closure?

Many of us are taught that if we work hard enough we’ll be able to get over our losses. The social scientist Pauline Boss sees it differently.

#black-lives-matter-movement, #black-people, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #george-floyd-protests-2020, #grief-emotion, #university-of-minnesota

They Died From Covid. Then the Online Attacks Started.

The social media profiles of anti-vaccine victims of the pandemic have made them and their families targets of trolling, even after their deaths.

#coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #grief-emotion, #reddit-inc, #rumors-and-misinformation, #social-media, #vaccination-and-immunization

Is Truth the Best Medicine for Dying Patients?

Readers react to a doctor’s essay about regretting her honesty with a dying man.

#death-and-dying, #doctors, #hospice-care, #medicine-and-health

Short on Staff, Some Hospices Ask New Patients To Wait

“It causes huge distress to tell a family, ‘We can’t serve you,’” said one state hospice organization director.

#death-and-dying, #elder-care, #elderly, #home-health-care, #hospice-care, #labor-and-jobs, #national-hospice-and-palliative-care-organization, #nursing-and-nurses, #shortages, #your-feed-health, #your-feed-science

Why a Patient in Denial Is So Tough for Doctors

Why a patient in denial is such a challenge for doctors.

#death-and-dying, #doctors, #medical-ethics

The Dead Get a Do-Over

In a flurry of streaming television shows, the departed get a second chance. And viewers find an outlet for sorrow and remorse.

#death-and-dying, #grief-emotion, #manifest-tv-program, #quarantine-life-and-culture, #television

On Death Row in Texas, a Last Request: A Prayer and ‘Human Contact’

Scheduled for execution on Sept. 8, John Henry Ramirez is suing to have his Baptist pastor lay hands on him as he dies.

#capital-punishment, #chaplains, #death-and-dying, #murders-attempted-murders-and-homicides, #prisons-and-prisoners, #religion-and-belief, #texas

The Sunday Read: ‘How Long Can We Live?’

New research is intensifying the life span debate — with profound implications for the future of the planet.

#age-chronological, #audio-neutral-informative, #death-and-dying, #medicine-and-health, #science-and-technology

One Thing I Don’t Plan to Do Before I Die Is Make a Bucket List

Until my cancer diagnosis, I did not understand that one future comes at the exclusion of all others.

#canadian-football-league, #cancer, #death-and-dying, #families-and-family-life, #pilgrimages, #restoration-and-renovation, #travel-and-vacations

What I’ve Learned Over a Lifetime of Caring for the Dying

As a doctor who cares for the dying, I know that direct-care aides are invaluable to patients and their families. We need to honor the work they do.

#death-and-dying, #health-insurance-and-managed-care, #home-health-care, #hospice-care, #nursing-homes

Cryonics During the Pandemic

The business of cryopreservation — storing bodies at deep freeze until well into the future — got a whole lot more complicated during the pandemic.

#china, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #cryonics, #death-and-dying, #russia, #scottsdale-ariz

Palliative Care in the ICU: What to Know About Time-Limited Trials

Time-limited trials offer I.C.U. patients and their families a sense of empowerment in the face of low odds.

#death-and-dying, #dialysis, #hospice-care, #hospitals, #life-sustaining-support-systems-withdrawal-of, #your-feed-health, #your-feed-healthcare, #your-feed-science

How Losing a Pet Can Make You Stronger

The process of acceptance and letting go builds the resilience necessary to navigate an array of life’s obstacles.

#death-and-dying, #grief-emotion, #love-emotion, #pets, #psychology-and-psychologists

Johnny Bench Misses His Hall of Fame Friends

Bench knew, played with or played against all of the 10 Hall of Famers who died in the past year. “You sit there and you are numb, and you remember and remember and remember,” he said.

#aaron-hank, #baseball, #baseball-hall-of-fame, #bench-johnny, #brock-lou, #cincinnati-reds, #death-and-dying, #ford-whitey, #gibson-bob, #kaline-al, #lasorda-tommy, #major-league-baseball, #morgan-joe, #niekro-phil, #seaver-tom, #st-louis-cardinals, #sutton-don

My Daughter and I Are Trapped in Brazil’s Tragedy

We spend our days watching ambulances, as Covid-19 rips through the country.

#ambulances, #bolsonaro-jair-1955, #brazil, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #quarantines, #vaccination-and-immunization

My Second Phase of Adulthood

How I’m changing my perspective on life.

#age-chronological, #children-and-childhood, #content-type-personal-profile, #death-and-dying, #parenting

We Weren’t Meant to Grieve Alone

We’ve been deprived of the last moments with loved ones and in-person gatherings to mourn together. What can we do to heal?

#coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #funerals-and-memorials, #grief-emotion

When an Estranged Relative Dies, Some Face Grief, Regret and Relief

Some have regrets over unfinished business. For others, the end of an unhappy and complicated relationship just comes as a relief.

#death-and-dying, #families-and-family-life, #funerals-and-memorials, #grief-emotion

When Patients Choose to End Their Lives

For some, the decision to die is more complicated than a wish to reduce pain.

#compassionchoices, #death-and-dying, #elderly, #euthanasia-and-assisted-suicide, #hospice-care, #living-wills-and-health-care-proxies

The Death Cleaner

For a forensic cleaner in Mexico City, helping grieving families heal is at the core of his service.

#death-and-dying, #families-and-family-life, #forensic-science, #mexico

Behind Closed Doors, ‘the Difficulty and the Beauty’ of Pandemic Hospice Work

“I did not really understand when people would ask, ‘Why me and why my family?’” a hospice chaplain said. “Now I was asking the same questions.”

#coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #elder-care, #express-inc, #grief-emotion, #home-health-care, #nassau-county-ny, #new-york-city, #quarantine-life-and-culture

Where Do the Dead Go in Our Imaginations?

My friend was gone. I needed to do something to honor the person she was.

#books-and-literature, #british-columbia-canada, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #euthanasia-and-assisted-suicide

What Loss Looks Like: Share an Object of Remembrance

Show us the artifacts that help you memorialize a person or experience lost during the pandemic. Your submission may be included in an upcoming project.

#coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #grief-emotion

Death Has Many Names

Not a day goes by that speakers of the Yoruba language do not make mention of death as both a phenomenon and a certainty.

#africa, #death-and-dying, #nigeria, #philosophy, #religion-and-belief

In Our Pandemic Isolation, Every Death Is a Covid Death

Even a cancer death like my friend’s is subject to one of the most brutal cruelties of the pandemic: Being apart.

#brain-cancer, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #friendship, #grief-emotion, #quarantine-life-and-culture

Frank Shankwitz, a Founder of Make-a-Wish, Is Dead at 77

A state highway patrolman in Arizona, he helped a terminally ill boy become a motorcycle cop and then came up with a plan to help more children realize their dreams.

#arizona, #children-and-childhood, #death-and-dying, #deaths-obituaries, #make-a-wish-foundation, #motorcycles-motor-bikes-and-motorscooters, #shankwitz-frank-1943-2021

Inside the U.K.’s Second Covid Wave

One hundred thousand people dead. A new, more contagious strain. The toll is close to unbearable. 

#cambridge-england, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #deaths-fatalities, #england, #funerals-and-memorials, #great-britain, #hospitals, #london-england

‘It’s Still Getting Worse.’ Inside Britain’s Vicious Second Wave.

#cambridge-england, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #deaths-fatalities, #england, #funerals-and-memorials, #great-britain, #hospitals, #london-england

Filing Suit for ‘Wrongful Life’

More Americans are writing end-of-life instructions as the pandemic renders such decisions less abstract. But are medical providers listening?

#augusta-ga, #compensation-for-damages-law, #death-and-dying, #elderly, #helena-mont, #hospitals, #life-sustaining-support-systems-withdrawal-of, #living-wills-and-health-care-proxies, #malpractice, #new-rochelle-ny, #suits-and-litigation-civil, #your-feed-healthcare, #your-feed-science

When Some Critics Reject the Film That’s About Your Life

After Hollywood optioned his devastating essay about his dying wife, Matthew Teague vowed the movie would do right by her. The reviews landed like a gut punch.

#cancer, #content-type-personal-profile, #cowperthwaite-gabriela, #death-and-dying, #faucheux-dane, #movies, #our-friend-movie, #teague-matthew, #teague-nicole-1978-2014

Zoom Funeral Tips

Holding a funeral or memorial on a videoconferencing platform like Zoom offers several advantages: It’s easy for distant guests to attend, and you can record it.

#computers-and-the-internet, #content-type-service, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #families-and-family-life, #funerals-and-memorials, #grief-emotion, #videophones-and-videoconferencing

The Power (and Joy) of Being Prepared

An important lesson of 2020 is that preparation for a health crisis is a gift to the people you love. Today’s Well challenge shows you how.

#aarp, #content-type-service, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #death-and-dying, #living-wills-and-health-care-proxies, #wills-and-estates