Does Your Nose Help Pick Your Friends?

In a small study, researchers in an olfaction lab found that people who had an instant personal connection also had similarities in their body odors.

#brain, #friendship, #nose, #smells-and-odors, #your-feed-science

If I Get Canceled, I Want Friends, Not Allies

I want friends whose minds are not tethered to mine in bonds of allegiance but spin freely of their own accord.

#ethics-personal, #friendship, #philosophy, #social-media

The Mental Toll of Keeping a Secret

In a new book, Michael Slepian considers the costs of keeping quiet.

#books-and-literature, #children-and-childhood, #content-type-personal-profile, #friendship

How Many Close Friends Do You Need in Adulthood?

Social circles were shrinking even before the pandemic. Here’s what the science says about the number of close friendships we should have.

#friendship, #loneliness, #psychology-and-psychologists, #research

We’re in a Loneliness Crisis: Another Reason to Get Off Our Phones

We need to reconnect with material things: nature, soil, our bodies and other people in real life.

#dating-and-relationships, #food, #friendship, #internal-sub-only-nl, #loneliness, #pollan-michael, #social-media

Reconsidering the Spice Girls: How Manufactured Girl Power Became Real

Even as the girl group topped the charts, it was dismissed as a pop confection. Twenty-five years later, its legacy is still being written.

#friendship, #movies, #pop-and-rock-music, #spice-girls-music-group, #spice-world-movie, #women-and-girls, #womens-rights, #youth

Books About Death and Grief Can Bring Hope

The saddest stories can show us how full of grace the fallen world can be.

#books-and-literature, #death-and-dying, #friendship, #grief-emotion, #love-emotion, #what-we-wish-were-true-book, #writing-and-writers

How to Make Friends After a Pandemic — and Why You Should

The more efficient our lives get, the lazier we are about making and keeping friends.

#buddhism, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #coronavirus-return-to-office, #friendship, #loneliness, #quarantines, #sociology

Delia Ephron’s Memoir Could Be Called ‘Love, Loss and Love Again’

In “Left on Tenth,” the veteran author looks back on a series of life-altering events, including a whirlwind romance at the age of 72.

#age-chronological, #books-and-literature, #dating-and-relationships, #ephron-delia, #ephron-nora, #friendship, #left-on-tenth-a-second-chance-at-life-book, #movies, #new-york-city, #writing-and-writers

The Secrets of Lasting Friendships

Anthropologist Robin Dunbar provides a framework.

#books-and-literature, #dunbar-robin, #emotions, #friends-understanding-the-power-of-our-most-important-relationships-book, #friendship, #united-states

Jealousy Doesn’t Have to Ruin a Friendship

Everyone feels left out sometimes. It’s how you handle it that matters.

#anxiety-and-stress, #content-type-service, #emotions, #empathy, #friendship, #jealousy-and-envy, #psychology-and-psychologists

Our Personal Struggles May Be Invisible to Others

Imagine a world in which our struggles were visible to everyone around us.

#books-and-literature, #chapel-hill-nc, #eyes-and-eyesight, #friendship, #internal-sub-only-nl, #news-and-news-media, #social-media

Why We All Need to Have More Fun

Prioritizing fun may feel impossible right now. But this four-step plan will help you rediscover how to feel more alive.

#anxiety-and-stress, #content-type-service, #friendship, #leisure, #quarantine-life-and-culture

What’s Better Than Charity?

Mutual aid fulfills needs, but it also builds stronger, more resilient communities.

#coronavirus-2019-ncov, #food-banks-and-pantries, #friendship, #income-inequality, #internal-sub-only-nl, #philanthropy

The Welcome Return of the Run-In

Running into acquaintances used to be a routine annoyance. Now, it’s an unholy rush.

#coronavirus-2019-ncov, #coronavirus-reopenings, #dating-and-relationships, #friendship

How to Enjoy the Moment

A thought experiment for finding more happiness in the everyday. 

#anxiety-and-stress, #boredom, #content-type-service, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #friendship, #happiness, #loneliness, #memory, #quarantine-life-and-culture

For Those Who Feel Rejected by Family, Friendsgiving Can Be a Lifeline

For many L.G.B.T.Q. Americans, especially those with immigrant roots, traditional notions of Thanksgiving and family may not apply. The holiday offers another way to celebrate.

#cooking-and-cookbooks, #friendship, #homosexuality-and-bisexuality, #thanksgiving-day, #transgender-and-transsexuals

The Last Words of Rachel Held Evans

She gave voice to a generation of wandering evangelicals wrestling with their faith. Two years after her sudden death at age 37, Rachel Held Evans has one more message.

#books-and-literature, #christians-and-christianity, #evans-rachel-held-1981-2019, #friendship

Facebook Debates What to Do With Its Like and Share Buttons

Likes and shares made the social media site what it is. Now, company documents show, it’s struggling to deal with their effects.

#anxiety-and-stress, #computers-and-the-internet, #conspiracy-theories, #corporate-social-responsibility, #facebook-inc, #friendship, #hate-speech, #haugen-frances, #instagram-inc, #mobile-applications, #online-advertising, #research, #rumors-and-misinformation, #social-media, #whistle-blowers, #zuckerberg-mark-e

Parallel Play Isn’t Just for Kids

Why parallel play is good for grown-ups, too.

#children-and-childhood, #dating-and-relationships, #friendship, #psychiatry-and-psychiatrists, #quarantine-life-and-culture

We Went to Vegas to Wring Joy From Heartbreak

Mitchell S. Jackson and his oldest friends reunited to mourn the ones they lost — and honor the time they have left.

#basketball, #black-people, #casinos, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #friendship, #greeting-gestures, #grief-emotion, #las-vegas-nev, #portland-ore, #travel-and-vacations

Joseph Brodsky Slept Here. The Great Poet’s Cranky Neighbor Couldn’t Care Less.

After a decades-long standoff with the last resident of a communal apartment, a private museum has finally opened in Brodsky’s shared home in St. Petersburg, a rare grass-roots victory in Russia.

#books-and-literature, #brodsky-joseph, #friendship, #museums, #nobel-prizes, #poetry-and-poets, #real-estate-and-housing-residential, #st-petersburg-russia

Race Manners: Dealing with Creepy Questions about Race

You can’t assume you know how your friend will feel about these questions. Your first step should be to find out.

#asian-americans, #customs-etiquette-and-manners, #dating-and-relationships, #friendship, #race-and-ethnicity

We Weren’t Happy Before the Pandemic, Either

Covid-19 has forced us to take a close look at our lives. Many of us don’t like what we see.

#coronavirus-2019-ncov, #deaths-fatalities, #friendship, #parenting

On Embracing Faith, or Rejecting It

Readers react to Ross Douthat’s invitation to “think yourself into” religious faith. Also: Working mothers; how to make friends.

#child-care, #christians-and-christianity, #friendship, #religion-and-belief, #women-and-girls

Now Going Viral: Meeting Online Friends in Real Life

Marissa Meizz became a TikTok meme after her friends excluded her from a birthday party. She decided to do something about it.

#computers-and-the-internet, #content-type-personal-profile, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #dating-and-relationships, #friendship, #generation-z, #meizz-marissa, #millennial-generation, #no-more-lonely-friends, #parties-social, #social-media, #tiktok-bytedance

What We Are Not Teaching Boys About Being Human

It turns out that there is a bizarre absence of fully realized human beings in my sons’ fictional worlds.

#metoo-movement, #books-and-literature, #emotions, #friendship, #men-and-boys, #parenting

How to Channel Your Inner Olympic Coach

Here are a few tips to help motivate those around you to persevere and succeed.

#anxiety-and-stress, #coaches-and-managers, #emotions, #friendship, #olympic-games-2016

Love Letter: Finding Unconditional Love in a Plush World

And: Legally married at last.

#dating-and-relationships, #friendship, #marriages, #toys

Raising Kids to Love Exercise

Body positive ways to encourage the joy of movement.

#children-and-childhood, #content-type-service, #friendship, #parenting, #psychology-and-psychologists, #soccer

Ron Lieber: Invest in the People You Love

If you’re emerging from the pandemic in better financial shape than before, ask yourself this: What will you spend to renew your bonds, and how will you do it?

#content-type-service, #families-and-family-life, #friendship, #personal-finances, #wills-and-estates

Using Apps to Find Friends After Quarantine

Lonely after emerging from quarantine or in a new city? Apps, private clubs and social networks are ready to fix you up with a new bestie.

#friendship, #mobile-applications, #quarantine-life-and-culture

Why Teens Need a Break This Summer

The pandemic has been the psychological workout of their lives. The next few months can be a time of recovery.

#coronavirus-2019-ncov, #friendship, #parenting, #summer-season, #teenagers-and-adolescence, #youth

How to Rearrange Your Post-Pandemic ‘Friendscape’

Re-entry offers an opportunity to choose which relationships we wish to resurrect and which are better left dormant.

#content-type-service, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #dating-and-relationships, #friendship, #loneliness, #quarantine-life-and-culture

The Great Unmasking

After Covid, a better life is possible.

#boston-college, #commencement-speeches, #coronavirus-reopenings, #emotions, #friendship, #united-states

So You Want to End the Conversation?

So do most people, a recent study found. Plus: amblypigids, a company called Covid, and other staff recommendations in the weekend edition of the Science Times newsletter.

#coronavirus-2019-ncov, #customs-etiquette-and-manners, #friendship, #parties-social, #quarantine-life-and-culture, #your-feed-health, #your-feed-science

It Might Be Time to Break Up Your Pandemic Pod

Yes, you really need to start seeing other people.

#content-type-service, #emotions, #friendship, #psychology-and-psychologists, #quarantines

Dunbar’s Number Debunked: You Can Have More Than 150 Friends

A new study questions that figure, known as Dunbar’s number. The Oxford professor for whom it is named, Robin Dunbar, dismissed the findings as “absolutely bonkers.”

#biology-letters-journal, #friendship, #monkeys-and-apes, #research, #robin-dunbar, #stockholm-university

When Grown-Ups Have Imaginary Friends

“Parasocial relationships” explain why you think influencers are your pals.

#celebrities, #friendship, #parenting, #social-media

From Best Friends to Platonic Spouses

Some people are taking their friendships to the next level by saying “I do” to marriages without sex.

#dating-and-relationships, #friendship, #homosexuality-and-bisexuality, #marriages

If You Don’t Want to Go, Say No

Most social obligations would be best left in the Before Times.

#content-type-service, #friendship, #quarantine-life-and-culture

The Pandemic Shrank Our Social Circles. Let’s Keep It That Way.

You don’t need to rekindle your friendship with your kid’s soccer teammate’s father if you don’t want to.

#anxiety-and-stress, #coronavirus-2019-ncov, #friendship, #quarantine-life-and-culture

Michael Musto, Lynn Yaeger and Mickey Boardman: Friends for Life

The longtime crew has been all around New York together and witnessed the city remake itself time and again. What’s endured is its members’ bonds with one another.

#bars-and-nightclubs, #boardman-mickey, #content-type-personal-profile, #fashion-and-apparel, #friendship, #musto-michael, #new-york-city, #news-and-news-media, #yaeger-lynn

Bryan Washington on His Going-Out Friends

In a year without access to queer spaces, one writer considers the importance of the bonds they helped form.

#bars-and-nightclubs, #dating-and-relationships, #friendship, #homosexuality-and-bisexuality, #text-messaging

Suzan-Lori Parks Gets the Band Back Together

Though she’s best known as a playwright, Suzan-Lori Parks is always looking to evolve as an artist — and derives a particular joy from performing her songs with and for others.

#friendship, #music, #parks-suzan-lori, #signature-theater-co, #theater

The Joy Ai Weiwei Gets From His Cats

The artist Ai Weiwei is inspired by the resilience and self-contentment of his beloved cats.

#ai-weiwei, #animals, #cats, #china, #friendship

David Oyelowo, Cynthia Erivo on Navigating Hollywood

How a group of Black British actors have supported one another’s careers and bonded over shared experiences.

#actors-and-actresses, #black-people, #erivo-cynthia, #friendship, #mbatha-raw-gugu, #movies, #oyelowo-david, #theater

Jessica Rankin and Julie Mehretu Were Partners, Then Friends

Two artists who’ve stayed close, even as the terms of their relationship have evolved.

#families-and-family-life, #friendship, #homosexuality-and-bisexuality, #marriages, #mehretu-julie

How a New Friendship Has Gotten Nan Goldin Through the Pandemic

An artist and a writer who, despite being at different stages of their lives, have forged a deep bond.

#backgammon, #friendship, #goldin-nan, #photography

Bowen Yang Misses Partying With His Friends at Bubble_T

For three years, the comedian Bowen Yang found community at Bubble_T, New York’s roving hub for queer Asian nightlife. Then the pandemic hit.

#asian-americans, #brooklyn-nyc, #friendship, #homosexuality-and-bisexuality, #parties-social, #yang-bowen-1990