What Does ‘Vex Money’ Do to Love?

Black women and girls must protect ourselves. Still, I wish I could relax into the plush comfort of a relationship.

#black-people, #marriages, #west-indian-americans, #women-and-girls

J-Lo and Liz Cheney and Us

I no longer believe that a woman’s decision to change her name signifies anything except what feels right to her.

#cheney-liz, #lopez-jennifer, #marriages, #women-and-girls, #womens-rights

How Roe’s Demise Could Safeguard Gay Marriage

A bill to protect marriage equality might now, improbably, become law.

#abortion, #audio-neutral-informative, #democratic-party, #homosexuality-and-bisexuality, #house-of-representatives, #law-and-legislation, #marriages, #same-sex-marriage-civil-unions-and-domestic-partnerships

J-Lo Is Now Jennifer Affleck. Why That Matters.

I like the romance of Bennifer 2.0 as much as the next person, but her name change makes me wince.

#affleck-ben, #lopez-jennifer, #marriages, #names-personal, #pop-and-rock-music, #weddings-and-engagements, #women-and-girls, #womens-rights

It’s Never Too Late to Learn the Tango and Fall in Love

Nancy Cardwell was a successful newspaper editor in New York. Then she took up tango, started spending time in Buenos Aires — and met Luis.

#buenos-aires-argentina, #dancing, #dating-and-relationships, #marriages, #nevertoolate2021, #tango

How to Make a Decision When There’s No ‘Right’ One

Life’s biggest problems are hard to tame with rationality.

#content-type-service, #darwin-charles-robert, #decision-making, #economics-theory-and-philosophy, #marriages, #rationality, #wild-problems-a-guide-to-the-decisions-that-define-us-book

Modern Love Podcast: A Mother’s Secret

He always thought his father was the only one at fault. Until one day, deep into adulthood, his mother asked him if they could go on a walk.

#akhtar-ayad, #love-emotion, #marriages, #pakistan

What Happens When a Rock Star Proposes Onstage?

Olivia Jean married the celebrated musician Jack White mid-performance, but she has a plan all her own.

#audio-recordings-downloads-and-streaming, #content-type-personal-profile, #dating-and-relationships, #dead-weather, #detroit-mich, #marriages, #music, #nashville-tenn, #pop-and-rock-music, #records-and-achievements, #third-man-records, #weddings-and-engagements, #white-jack, #women-and-girls

China Offers Women Perks for Having Babies, if They’re Married

Beijing is giving incentives to stem a demographic crisis, but its control over childbirth and its suppression of women’s rights are making it difficult for some aspiring parents to start a family.

#babies-and-infants, #china, #communist-party-of-china, #economic-conditions-and-trends, #egg-donation-and-freezing, #families-and-family-life, #in-vitro-fertilization, #marriages, #parenting, #politics-and-government, #pregnancy-and-childbirth, #single-mothers, #single-persons, #womens-rights

7 Questions to Strengthen Your Relationship

After two years of tumult, these essential conversations can help couples talk about what’s working, what’s not and where the relationship is headed.

#content-type-service, #dating-and-relationships, #marriages, #psychology-and-psychologists, #sex, #therapy-and-rehabilitation

Modern Love Podcast: Only With Distance

After a horrible divorce, they managed to develop a fragile friendship in their 80s.

#dating-and-relationships, #divorce-separations-and-annulments, #love-emotion, #marriages

How Sabyasachi Made the Sari Haute

As his country’s most famous designer, Sabyasachi has persuaded Indians to see the luxury in their fashion heritage. Can he persuade Americans too?

#beauty-concept, #content-type-personal-profile, #fashion-and-apparel, #handicrafts, #indian-americans, #kolkata-india, #luxury-goods-and-services, #marriages, #mukherjee-sabyasachi, #shopping-and-retail, #silk-and-silk-goods, #weddings-and-engagements

Logan Ury Says You’re Dating All Wrong

From her Oakland commune, a dating coach has made a big business out of her data-driven approach to modern romance.

#books-and-literature, #content-type-personal-profile, #dating-and-relationships, #love-emotion, #marriages, #online-dating, #psychology-and-psychologists, #sex, #single-persons

A Wider Lens on the MeToo Backlash: Who Pays for Societal Change?

The same fundamentals apply to patriarchal systems, whether in Hollywood or India: Threats to men’s status can provoke broader resistance than you might think.

#metoo-movement, #depp-johnny, #discrimination, #equal-rights-amendment, #heard-amber, #india, #marriages, #politics-and-government, #schlafly-phyllis, #sexual-harassment, #women-and-girls, #womens-rights

Modern Love Podcast: Marriage Classes at Guantánamo

Learning about love from his fellow detainees gave a young Yemeni man hope.

#audio-positive-escape, #dating-and-relationships, #detainees, #guantanamo-bay-naval-base-cuba, #love-emotion, #marriages, #weddings-and-engagements, #yemen

Terrence Real’s Latest Book Explores Fixing What Ails Us

In his new book, ‘Us’, Terrence Real explores how ‘enlightened self interest’ could save your relationship.

#books-and-literature, #content-type-personal-profile, #marriages

I Married the Wrong Person, and I’m So Glad I Did

I want to normalize significant periods of confusion, exhaustion, grief and unfulfillment in marriage.

#divorce-separations-and-annulments, #internal-sub-only-nl, #love-emotion, #marriages, #waite-linda-j

‘Misoginia de la era colonial’: en los fallos sobre los derechos de las mujeres se cita a un juez del siglo XVII

Tanto en India como en el borrador del fallo Roe v. Wade en Estados Unidos, todavía ocupa un lugar preponderante un juez inglés que escribió que las mujeres estaban obligadas por contrato a los maridos.

#abortion, #civil-rights-movement-1954-68, #constitutions, #domestic-violence, #great-britain, #india, #marriages, #politics-and-government, #roe-v-wade-supreme-court-decision, #united-states, #united-states-politics-and-government, #women-and-girls, #womens-rights

The 17th-Century English Judge Behind Abortion and Rape Rulings Today

Both in India and in the Roe v. Wade draft ruling roiling the United States, Lord Matthew Hale — an English judge who wrote that women were contractually obligated to husbands — still looms large.

#abortion, #civil-rights-movement-1954-68, #constitutions, #domestic-violence, #great-britain, #india, #marriages, #politics-and-government, #roe-v-wade-supreme-court-decision, #united-states, #united-states-politics-and-government, #women-and-girls, #womens-rights

What Does the ‘Post-Liberal Right’ Actually Want?

The political theorist Patrick Deneen thinks “liberal totalitarianism” is plundering America. Is he right?

#audio-neutral-informative, #conservatism-us-politics, #deneen-patrick-j, #families-and-family-life, #liberalism-us-politics, #marriages, #republican-party, #united-states-politics-and-government

This Man Married a Fictional Character. He’d Like You to Hear Him Out.

Akihiko Kondo and thousands of others are in devoted fictional relationships, served by a vast industry aimed at satisfying the desires of a fervent fan culture.

#dating-and-relationships, #japan, #kondo-akihiko, #marriages, #miku-hatsune

When Financial Cheating Hurts Your Retirement Plan

Financial infidelity destroys trust. It can deliver a serious blow to your post-career planning, too.

#401k-403b-and-457-plans, #content-type-service, #credit-and-debt, #credit-cards, #divorce-separations-and-annulments, #marriages, #personal-bankruptcies, #personal-finances, #retirement

11 Set Up Hundreds of Sham Marriages for Green Card Seekers, U.S. Says

Clients paid fees up to $30,000 as part of the yearslong scheme, an affidavit said. Some applications falsely claimed the clients had been abused by their spouses, prosecutors said.

#boston-mass, #citizenship-and-naturalization, #domestic-violence, #federal-bureau-of-investigation, #frauds-and-swindling, #green-cards-us, #immigration-and-emigration, #los-angeles-calif, #marriages, #massachusetts, #violence-against-women-act-1994, #women-and-girls

Closing Up Shop on a Marriage

When the last thing you share is your pharmacy rewards account.

#divorce-separations-and-annulments, #duane-reade-drugstores, #love-emotion, #marriages

Separated but Under the Same Roof

Some couples who’ve ended their marriages are finding common ground right at home.

#dating-and-relationships, #divorce-separations-and-annulments, #families-and-family-life, #marriages, #parenting, #real-estate-and-housing-residential, #single-parents, #single-persons

The Dentist Who Treated My Divorce

When in pain, it helps to know someone who has experience treating it.

#divorce-separations-and-annulments, #love-emotion, #marriages, #teeth-and-dentistry

How Married ‘Bachelor’ Couples Make It Work. Yes, Some Are Still Together.

As “The Bachelor” franchise enters its 20th year, still-married couples who met on that show and “The Bachelorette” discuss how they’ve built lasting relationships.

#love-emotion, #marriages, #television, #the-bachelor-tv-program, #the-bachelorette-tv-program, #weddings-and-engagements

How Are We Still Debating Interracial Marriage in 2022?

The Ketanji Brown Jackson hearings unleashed some deeply retro Senatorial opinions.

#black-people, #braun-michael-1954, #civil-rights-movement-1954-68, #constitution-us, #homosexuality-and-bisexuality, #marriages, #race-and-ethnicity, #same-sex-marriage-civil-unions-and-domestic-partnerships, #united-states-politics-and-government, #voting-rights-act-1965

All in the Game of Love

Over crosswords, Rubik’s Cubes or Scrabble, these couples bonded through their shared love of puzzles and games.

#bullock-jessie-crossword-constructor, #cards-and-card-games, #crossword-puzzles, #dating-and-relationships, #games, #love-emotion, #marriages, #quarantine-life-and-culture, #scrabble-game, #trudeau-ross-crossword-constructor

China’s Divorce Rate Is Down, but So Are Marriages

While officials say a new law has helped save marriages, the bigger challenge in the country’s demographic crisis is that fewer people are getting married in the first place.

#birth-rates, #china, #communist-party-of-china, #divorce-separations-and-annulments, #domestic-violence, #marriages, #politics-and-government, #population, #weddings-and-engagements

Hating Weddings Was Easy Until I Got Married

I found it so easy to judge other people’s ceremonies. Then, along came Thomas.

#dating-and-relationships, #marriages, #same-sex-marriage-civil-unions-and-domestic-partnerships, #weddings-and-engagements

Tova Borgnine, Cosmetics Maven and QVC Star, Dies at 80

She turned a cactus-derived face mask into a multimillion-dollar beauty business. Her husband, the actor Ernest Borgnine, gave it a surprise assist.

#borgnine-ernest, #borgnine-tova, #cosmetics-and-toiletries, #deaths-obituaries, #marriages, #qvc-inc, #tova-beverly-hills-cosmetics-co

Saving Each Other’s Lives, Quite Literally

An instinct for detecting health problems, and a healthy appetite for sex, have bonded Brian Gari and Jeanne Cathcart for the last 12 years.

#dating-and-relationships, #marriages

Why Couples Are Having Multiple Weddings in the Pandemic

Couples recount the experience of having two or three wedding events because of the pandemic, a trend some experts say will continue to influence how many celebrate.

#marriages, #quarantine-life-and-culture, #weddings-and-engagements

Why Black Couples Jump the Broom

Once a symbolic way for enslaved people in the American South to recognize their marriages, modern couples say that this tradition is a way to honor those who did it before them.

#black-people, #marriages, #weddings-and-engagements

Modern Love Podcast: Married to a Deal Breaker

Could you fall in love with someone who can’t quit the thing you hate?

#dating-and-relationships, #love-emotion, #marriages, #smoking-and-tobacco

Supreme Court to Hear Case of Web Designer Who Objects to Same-Sex Marriage

The case may settle a question left open in 2018: how to reconcile claims of religious liberty with laws barring discrimination based on sexual orientation.

#decisions-and-verdicts, #discrimination, #freedom-of-religion, #freedom-of-speech-and-expression, #homosexuality-and-bisexuality, #marriages, #same-sex-marriage-civil-unions-and-domestic-partnerships, #supreme-court-us

How A.D.H.D. Can Affect Your Relationships

The symptoms of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder can push couples to their breaking point, but there is hope for those willing to seek help.

#attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder, #content-type-service, #dating-and-relationships, #marriages, #psychology-and-psychologists

An Immersive History of Mixed-Descent Native Families

In “Born of Lakes and Plains,” Anne F. Hyde draws attention to the roles that intermarriage played in the development of the American West.

#books-and-literature, #born-of-lakes-and-plains-mixed-descent-peoples-and-the-making-of-the-american-west-book, #hyde-anne-f, #marriages, #midwestern-states-us, #native-americans, #race-and-ethnicity, #united-states, #western-states-us, #whites

Marriage Made Me Let Go of My Dreams. Good.

What if joy is found in not getting exactly what we want?

#careers-and-professions, #love-emotion, #marriages, #parenting

Yes, There’s a Romance to Marriage

And parenthood doesn’t have to be where passion goes to die.

#dating-and-relationships, #foreverland-on-the-divine-tedium-of-marriage-book, #instagram-inc, #internal-sub-only-nl, #marriages, #parenting, #real-housewives-tv-program, #valentines-day

The Lesbian Writer and Her Flamboyant Gay Husband

Peter taught me to laugh at fate as we lived our dream. At least for a while.

#black-people, #citizenship-and-naturalization, #dating-and-relationships, #homosexuality-and-bisexuality, #love-emotion, #marriages

Lisa Taddeo: My Real Love Language Is Fear

Women are not always comfortable saying what they need from their partners.

#dating-and-relationships, #fear-emotion, #love-emotion, #marriages

My Trans Journey Through Passport

A trans woman’s passport photos show more than the countries she has visited.

#gender, #marriages, #passports, #transgender-and-transsexuals

What Drove the Last Big Surge in Weddings in 1984?

The number of weddings expected in the United States in 2022 is a number not seen since 1984, when experts say a confluence of economic and cultural events led people to the altar.

#marriages, #weddings-and-engagements

2022 Is a Boom Year For Weddings

If the predictions pan out, there will be some 2.5 million weddings in 2022 — the most since 1984 — and yet it’s never been more difficult to plan one. Here’s what couples should expect.

#marriages, #weddings-and-engagements

Heather Havrilesky Compares Her Husband to a Heap of Laundry

In her memoir, “Foreverland,” the advice columnist opens up about her own marriage.

#books-and-literature, #content-type-personal-profile, #foreverland-on-the-divine-tedium-of-marriage-book, #havrilesky-heather, #marriages, #writing-and-writers

Françoise Gilot: ‘It Girl’ at 100

The painter, writer and the only woman with the spunk and self-determination to leave Picasso has a few things to say about success, personal style and the nature of intimacy.

#art, #content-type-personal-profile, #gilot-francoise, #marriages, #picasso-pablo, #women-and-girls

What Does It Mean to Be Committed in 2022?

The Times Weddings editor Charanna Alexander discusses the decision to move away from the traditional Times wedding announcement and her plans for the section.

#marriages, #weddings-and-engagements

Talking to Voters From Both Parties

Readers are upset that Republicans in one of the focus groups still believe that the election was stolen. Also: Vaccine mandates; marriage and divorce.

#democratic-party, #divorce-separations-and-annulments, #marriages, #polls-and-public-opinion, #presidential-election-of-2020, #republican-party, #supreme-court-us, #united-states-politics-and-government, #vaccination-and-immunization