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Tag Archives: Single Persons
Straight People Need Better Rules for Sex
What if consent isn’t enough?
Separated but Under the Same Roof
Some couples who’ve ended their marriages are finding common ground right at home.
HBO’s ‘Somebody Somewhere’ and the Rise of the Female TV Antihero
The “unbecoming” heroine is a timely reminder that women need not be responsible, self-improving and productive in order to be valued.
Jeff Zucker Was Right to Resign. But I Can’t Judge Him.
Strong feelings can develop, even within the confines of strong — and necessary —boundaries.
What He Hadn’t Told Me
We met on a dating app, where his profile lacked a few crucial details.
Dream of Buying a Home Gets Harder for Single Mothers
Lost pay during the pandemic and high costs threaten strides they had made in homeownership, often a key driver of long-term wealth.
How to Get Through a Pandemic Breakup
Even with life slowly creeping back to normal, a split from a partner during such stressful times can feel challenging.
The Highs and Lows of Finding Love on the Spectrum
Not surprisingly, the romantic lives of autistic adults are just like those of neurotypical adults: never easy.
A Service for People Dating in New York City
Hot Singles, a weekly email newsletter, evokes nostalgia for a simpler approach to finding romance, before dating apps were ubiquitous.
How to Spot a Love Addict
Experts question whether we can describe a toxic relationship the way we talk about gambling or alcohol. But some have found that framework to be a helpful step in the road to freedom.
Having Trouble Finding Your Soul Mate? Let Mom Do It for You.
As vaccine rollout continues, the pressures of online dating are back. So is the idea of outsourcing the matchmaking to your Jewish parents.
An Anxious Person Tries to Be Chill
Spoiler: It doesn’t work (until she stops trying).
From a Sale, Lace Undergarments, Never Worn
My mother told me if I didn’t marry by 25, I would end up “on the shelf.” Still single at 36, I’m learning to appreciate the view.
A Fast-Moving Coronavirus Means ‘Slow Dating’
Looking for love demands a little more discernment in the age of Covid.
Can You Manifest Your Perfect Match?
Some relationship coaches believe healing from past traumas and dating with intention can help you find your person. But it may cost you over $10,000.
When a Summer Hookup Lasts 12 Years, It’s Time to Reassess
Our relationship was supposed to be brief and casual. We never managed to call it off.
How Does It Feel to Be Dating Again?
If the answer is “anxiety-provoking,” we’ve got some advice for you.
‘A Family Like Ours’: Portraits of Gay Fatherhood
A new book of photography features the intimate moments of queer dads in America.
The I.V.F. Plot in Aziz Ansari’s ‘Master of None’ Is Based on My Story
Why Aziz Ansari based a plot in ‘Master of None’ on my journey to become a single mother.
China Wants More Babies. Some Men Choose Vasectomies.
As the Chinese government tries to increase the country’s falling birthrate, some millennials are striving for a lifestyle commonly known as “Double Income, No Kids.”
For China’s Single Mothers, a Road to Recognition Paved With False Starts
Unmarried mothers are often denied government benefits. A debate over the policy is being propelled by a declining birthrate and a new generation of independent Chinese women.
White House Says Dating Apps Can Help Vaccinated (and Frisky) Find Love
With new “I’m Vaccinated” badges, dating apps are plugging into a cultural conversation over how Americans can approach postpandemic dating.
When It Comes to Her Relationship History, Nancy Jo Sales Is an Open Book
In her new memoir, “Nothing Personal,” the veteran journalist reports on her own search for connection.
Modern Love Podcast: ‘Why Do People Get Married?’
Watching his grandmother enter her third marriage, Jake Maynard wondered if marriage was about care, convention — or something else entirely.
Has the Pandemic Changed Dating Forever?
Boundaries. Meaningful connections. “Covid baggage.” Here’s what dating will look like in a post-pandemic world.
Tiny Love Stories: ‘Why Can’t You Find Someone?’
Modern Love in miniature, featuring reader-submitted stories of no more than 100 words.
Emmanuel Acho to Host ‘The Bachelor’ Television Special
Mr. Acho, author of “Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man,” will host “After the Final Rose” after the show’s longtime host went on hiatus over comments dismissive of racism.
What It’s Like to Work With a Matchmaker
Six customers of matchmaking services share their experiences. Their fees ranged from about $500 to $25,000.
Podcasts to Listen to If You’re Single on Valentine’s Day
Or the lack thereof.
After Two Dating Apps and 98 First Dates, Something Was Different About the 99th
Inimai Chettiar showed the same determination in dating as she did with her work at the Justice Action Network. Kenneth Wolf Jr. helped bring romance back into her life.
A Pandemic Is Hard Enough. For Some, Being Single Has Made It Harder.
“One day I realized it had been three months since I had touched a human being,” one man said.
Sex and Dating in the Coronavirus Pandemic
New world. New rules. Same old problems.
Dating Without Alcohol
Going out for drinks has become a dating norm, but what if you’re sober?
The Joys of Frivolous Sex
The pandemic has brought out a nasty puritanism.
Sparks Fly on Virtual Dates, but Not So Much in Real Life
At the beginning of the pandemic, many singles turned to video dating to forge connections. Some daters felt instant attraction online, but no chemistry in person.
Modern Love: The Pandemic Arrived. His Text Back Did Not.
Tough times may not bring love, but they do bring clarity.
When A.I. Falls in Love
The Times asked GPT-3 to tell us a little about itself and its romantic life.
Enjoy the Holidays Alone
Single people make up one third of all American households and finding ways to celebrate this Thanksgiving means taking action ahead of time.
Dating Before the Election
Singles are putting their political affiliations front and center as they search for partners who share their views, or at least accept them.
Are There Any Mothers Out There Like Me?
I spent months agonizing over my lack of a partner or high-powered career. But it was my depression that almost upended my dream of motherhood.
It’s Easier to Parent With a Partner in Many Ways, Except This One
I was my son’s only parent and our bond was strong. Now, I’m worried my daughter and I won’t have that connection.
I Was Done Dating. Then I Joined a Hookup App.
What if the fastest path to a committed relationship is to actively avoid one?
Single Parents Finding Love: Over Zoom, of Course
Because dating with kids wasn’t tricky enough before the pandemic.
What All That Touch Deprivation Is Doing to Us
It’s going to be a while before we can hug freely again. What does that mean for our mental health?
Love and the Lockdown
Some couples, faced with the possibility of not seeing one another for long stretches when the pandemic hit, instead decided to quarantine together and fast-tracked their relationships.
When Marriage Is Just Another Overhyped Nightclub
Being single in your 30s can feel like waiting to enter a popular club, only to get in and think: What’s the big deal?
Trying to Feel Love-Worthy (While Working for a Dating App)
Being awash in romantic complaints has left me — a Black woman who’s had heartache — feeling dismayed but hopeful.
Masks, No Kissing and ‘a Little Kinky’: Dating and Sex in a Pandemic
New York City public health officials have frank new advice for people who are looking for companionship and physical intimacy during the pandemic.
Older Adults Remain Isolated Despite Reopening. These Programs Help.
Volunteer efforts have popped up across the country to help ease the lingering isolation of the pandemic among older Americans, creating connections and unexpected friendships.